A Chefs Life
Built primarily for men in hospitality. The principles apply to anyone living under sustained pressure.
- Free Starter Pack
Creates awareness around pressure, drinking patterns, and why willpower breaks down.
- Sober Strength System
Provides a simple framework to follow when pressure hits.
- 7-Day Sober Strength Breakthrough
Interrupts the drink–regret–repeat loop.
- 14-Day Sober Strength Reset
Builds daily structure and steadier routines under hospitality hours.
- 12-Week Sober Strength Program
Rebuilds identity, habits, and leadership under pressure so alcohol is no longer used to cope.
For Hospitality Men who are capable, exhausted, and ready for structure instead of another attempt.
There is no content library to get lost in.
There is no expectation to consume everything.
The work is designed to be applied, not admired.
This Is a 12-Week Working Agreement for Men Under Pressure
How This Works
• This is a 12-week structure, not a support group
• You are not chased, reminded, or convinced
• You are given clear routines and expected to apply them
• You are encouraged to speak honestly, not perform progress
• You are not judged for slipping, but patterns are addressed directly
This is not motivation, therapy, or accountability theatre.
It is a structured agreement between two men to rebuild habits, identity, and control under real hospitality pressure.
What You Actually Receive
• A simple daily structure that works on early starts and late finishes
• One clear focus per week instead of scattered tasks
• Tools for the exact moments men usually cave
• Language for boundaries at work and at home
• Direct access to clarification when things get messy
How We Rebuild You From the Inside Out
1. Sobriety & Habits
(Sober Strength)
Break the after-shift drinking cycle, rebuild routines that actually work around weird hours, and learn how to handle stress without needing a drink to cope
2. Leadership & Identity
(Hospitality Heroes)
Step up as a leader in the kitchen and at home. Clear boundaries, calm under pressure, better communication, more respect.
3. Fatherhood & Manhood (Brotherhood Work)
Handle co-parenting, high-conflict exes, and fatherhood with emotional control and strength. Stop carrying everything alone.
This Is for Men in Hospitality
Who Are Done Pretending They’re “Fine”
I work with men in kitchens, bars, cafés and hotels who are:
- Drinking more than they want to admit
- Snapping at the people they love
- Running on fumes, caffeine and anxiety
- Feeling guilt as a dad or partner
- Sick of starting again “Monday” and falling off by Thursday
- Ready to rebuild their habits, identity and strength
without -walking away from the industry they know
If that’s you, you’re in the right place, brother.
Testimonials
"I had the privilege of working alongside this exceptional chef for many years, and his influence on my professional career and personal life has been profound. He has consistently been a source of unwavering support, guiding me through both the highs and lows. His advice and encouragement have been instrumental in my growth, shaping me into the person I am today. His dedication and genuine care have left a lasting mark on my journey, and I am truly grateful for his mentorship and friendship."
Nick
"From the moment I was old enough to walk, I've been by my dad's side, witnessing his remarkable journey from his first restaurant when I was just three years old to the accomplished man he is today. Throughout my life, he has been both a supportive father and an inspiring coach, guiding me with love and wisdom. Watching him grow has been a privilege, just as he has watched me grow. I am immensely proud of the man he has become, and I eagerly look forward to seeing where his journey takes him next. His dedication and passion continue to inspire me every day."
Chloe
5. Sober Strength Foundations — 4-Week Program
For men who are ready to get serious about changing their relationship with alcohol but aren’t ready for the full Brotherhood yet.
This is for you if:
You’re sick of promising yourself “never again”
You’ve tried cutting back but end up back at the bottle
You work in hospo and need a plan that fits that reality
You’ll get:
4 core modules (video + audio)
Weekly reflection worksheets
Craving management tools
Habit-building plan that works with hospitality shifts
6. Fatherhood Leadership Accelerator — 4-Week Program
For dads dealing with co-parenting, high-conflict exes or guilt about how things used to be.
You’ll get:
- Emotional control training for fathers
- Co-parenting communication templates
- Fatherhood identity work (who you choose to be now)
- Worksheets to rebuild your confidence as a dad
3. After-Shift Drinking Breaker — Video Workshop
A straight-talk training on how to break the “finish work → drink → regret → repeat” loop.
You’ll get:
- A 45min video training you can watch anytime
- A practical game-plan to change your nights
- A simple “one week challenge” to prove to yourself you can do it
-Printable/refillable worksheet pack
COMING SOON
4. Hospitality Stress & Burnout Reset Toolkit
Tools for chefs and hospitality men who are fried, snappy and running on adrenaline.
You’ll get:
- Stress reset routine you can do in under 10 minutes
- Double-shift survival strategy
- “Signs you’re burning out” checklist
- Simple self-care habits for high-pressure kitchens
COMING SOON
FAQ's
Here are the most common, high-value FAQs men ask when considering sobriety coaching,
identity coaching and high-conflict/relationship support
1. Do I need to be an “alcoholic” to do this program?
No. Most men who work with me aren’t physically addicted — they’re stuck in cycles driven by stress, pressure, habit and emotional overload. You don’t need a label. You just need honesty.
2. Do I need to quit drinking forever?
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3. What if I can’t stick to things normally?
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4. Can I do this even if I’m still drinking now?
Yes.
Most men start while they’re still drinking.
The program is built to help you break the cycle as you learn, not before you begin.
5. What if I drink during the program? Do I need to start over?
No.
Slips happen. You don’t restart — you keep going.
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about progress and identity shift.
6. Do I need to talk about my feelings?
Not in a therapy way.
You won’t be asked to spill your life story.
I teach you to understand your emotions in a practical, masculine, strategic way — the way men actually process things.
7. How is this different from therapy or a counsellor?
Therapy talks.
I teach, coach, and guide.
I give you tools, habits, scripts, identity shifts and frameworks you can use tonight — not theories.
And I understand hospitality because I lived it for 30+ years.
8. What if I work late or have unpredictable hours?
Perfect.
Everything I teach is built for chefs, bartenders, managers and hospitality men.
Short lessons. Fast tools. After-shift routines.
It fits your life, not the other way around.
9. What if I’m embarrassed to ask for help?
Good. That means you’re human.
Every man who works with me felt the same at first.
Within a day or two, they realise this isn’t judgement — it’s support, structure and brotherhood.
10. What if my partner, ex, or mates judge me for doing this?
You’re not doing this for them.
You’re doing this to lead yourself, rebuild your identity, and show up as the man you know you can be.
11. How long until I start feeling a difference?
Most men feel clearer, lighter and more in control within 48–72 hours.
Some feel it on Day 1 when the truth finally clicks.
12. What if I’ve failed before?
Then you’re exactly who this was built for.
You didn’t fail because you’re weak — you failed because you never had a system that actually fit your life.
Now you do.
14. Is this confidential?
Absolutely.
Your story stays with you and me — nowhere else.
